"...that it may minister grace unto the hearers"
By SeekRecovery
7/28/2010 8:23:50 AM
Have you ever been white knuckling for several days and then you go to a group meeting and through some "power" the temptation goes away? In June my wife was out of town for a week. I was struggling, really struggling. Group meeting was not until Thursday. Wow--what a hard week. But Thursday finally came and by the end of the meeting my perspective on the world had changed. I had received some amazing "power". I felt so good. I was free from temptation. That same power has come in reading the Big Book, calling others in recovery, and in recent days reading posts on this website.

From Ephesians: "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers" (Ephesians 4:29). ...that it may minister grace unto the hearers...So grace, the power that comes from Christ's Atonement, can be received through the words of others. I have felt this grace in group meetings, on the phone, when reading scriptures. It has been a tremendous resource for me.

I want to thank those who have posted and also thank those who provide this website. My family is out of town again this week. Historically when my wife is out of town I struggle--really struggle. To be honest I don't know that I have ever truly made it through a week alone without slipping in some way. But after my experience in June I made a commitment. Every day I would seek grace through others in recovery. I know I can't wait until Thursday night. I am stronger because I'm not relying on me. I know I need others.

This morning I read several posts from a thread in 2006. Those words helped me today! Thanks to those that come to this site. Thanks for sharing your experience, your success, your struggles. Your words are a a powerful strength for me.


Good Job!    
"That's the miracle of it! We have a daily reprieve from our addiction, but it is contingent on our spiritual condition. When you can't make it to a meeting, call someone from the program and talk to them until that "new perspective" comes. You're doing great!"
posted at 10:14:36 on July 28, 2010 by Anonymous
Good Job!    
"That's the miracle of it! We have a daily reprieve from our addiction, but it is contingent on our spiritual condition. When you can't make it to a meeting, call someone from the program and talk to them until that "new perspective" comes. You're doing great!"
posted at 10:14:38 on July 28, 2010 by Anonymous
"Amazing. I assume that, since you attend group, your wife knows of your struggles. Hopefully, she will be pleased when she returns and you have been clean. What a wonderful thing. Congratulations. Keep it up!"
posted at 10:23:33 on July 28, 2010 by BeClean
Lots of meetings    
"Seek, I don't know where you live, but I am blessed to be in an area where if I travel just a little, I can go to up to 3 meetings per day if I want to. Northern Utah has meetings 7 days a week, and I have gone to 6 meetings in the last 8 days. I don't have to find one specific for pornography. I have been blessed by the spirit and the testimony and outreaching of love from the other participants at all meetings I have ever attended. I had a similar success to you and just kept going to meetings and the Lord helped me through the tough times."
posted at 10:42:00 on July 28, 2010 by lawrence

I wish there were more meetings where I live. I've heard about the 90 meeting in 90 day that is sometimes promoted in AA--it would definitely be a good experience for me. I am from Montana and there is only a Thursday night LDS group meeting in my community. Reaching any other meetings would mean at least a 1.5 hour drive each wau. I've thought about attending AA or NA but I'm not sure how I would be received. If I could I would attend 90 meetings in 90 days. I have made some contacts with people who are in AA including some who have been sober for years--they are a great resource for me. I decided this week while my wife is gone that I would blog every has actually been twice a day and has been a great resource.

I'm curious if anyone has tried any 1-800 group meetings or online group meetings. Are there any LDS based mtgs of this nature?"
posted at 21:41:54 on July 28, 2010 by Seekrecovery
Good post    
"I live in a small town and cannot get to any meetings. The nearest one is an hour away and driving that far away is not always a good thing. I used to go to meetings and then go to an adult club on the way home. I have made a lot of improvements since then, but still don't trust myself. I keep myself on a very short lease these days. I have been feeling that I need to come to this website more often. I have been reading a great book by Elder Holland, "Broken things to mend" I suggest picking it up."
posted at 09:20:31 on August 1, 2010 by bobhere2112
Phone Meeting    
"Thanks for your comments Bobhere. I have struggled with sexual addiction for many years. I too can remember times when I have fallen when I should have been my strongest. Last night I was mentioning to my wife a time when I had specifically watched all sessions of conference in an effort to sanctify myself. The next few days were some of the toughest for me. I really like what Nickwyo. said in his post tonight--recovery is a daily process. Sometimes we need to have the greatest guard after we have reached a goal (such as attending a meeting...or for me after watching general conference). I have come to realize that I am only one moment, one thought process away from returning to my addiction.

I was thinking about what you said about getting home from group meetings--If I was in your shoes I don't think I would attend either... one thought I had was perhaps at some point there will be a person from your area who is going that you could travel with...

This website really has been a blessing for me. I wish there were even more blogs & comments! Sometimes I go back and read past threads. I really gain a lot from reading them. Reading books has also been a source of strength--I will need to look into Elder Hollands book.

Bob- I would like to try and organize a 1-800 group meeting. Essentially a person could call into a group meeting via a 1-800 conference line. I want to stay in recovery and I really believe the is strength in working with others in recovery. Would this be something you would be interested in?"
posted at 22:37:52 on August 2, 2010 by Seekrecovery

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