By Matrix
12/10/2007 12:25:51 AM
My boyfriend just bought a laptop and unfortunately it came with the internet and no filters. He is a very computer savy guy and I wanted to know if anyone knows what the best filter is that can be put onto it so that he can't find a way to get around it. He has been able to get through many other filters before and I'm hoping to find one that he can't hack. He needs the internet for a class so he can't just get rid of it. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to get? Fortunately, his battery is dead and I'm keeping his charger until he gets something put on it.


Covenant Eyes, CyberSitter, and BSafe    
"My vote would be Covenant Eyes ( ). It's not so much a filter as it is a reporting service. I'm a computer savvy guy too and I have it on all my computers at work. One of the biggest gripes I had with filters is that they seemed to cause the machine to run very slowly or some applications simply wouldn't run at all. So it really affected my ability to get work done. Covenant Eyes is different, though. It just sits on the machine and doesn't block anything, or lock up any applications. Instead, it simply reports on any questionable activity throughout the day. This is nice for me, because it helps me to remember that really, someone is always watching and aware of what I'm doing. And not just my wife. Heavenly Father knows what I'm doing and this service is a good reminder of that.

Is there a way to hack it? I don't think so. Plus, it has built in reporting features that report on things that happen to the software itself. For instance, at work, I knocked the power cord out of the power strip once and there was a report sent to my wife saying Covenant Eyes had been suspended for a couple minutes while my machine restarted. I haven't put it through the gauntlet either and that is an important point. If your BF is very savvy, he may be able to beat anything you put on there. I'm not saying he will, but maybe. And if he's that determined to break through a filter, then there's nothing that can stop him anyway. If he can't get it on the computer, he'll go to a magazine or video store and get it. Not to make you discouraged, but that's one of the biggest reasons this addiction is so insidious. It is SO easy to hide and easy to get if you look for it. Is he actively involved in his own recovery or is this something you're pushing on him? If it's you pushing it on him, then he will find ways around it. Not that pushing isn't good, because sometimes we need to be pushed initially to take those scary hard steps and then we can become more involved because we want to be. If you do use Covenant Eyes, after it's installed, go to Start > Programs > Covenant Eyes > Advanced Configuration, then select every checkbox. Save the settings. Then delete "Covenant Eyes" from the Start > Programs menu. This doesn't delete the actual software, just the link to it. Plus all those selections make it a little harder for the user to try to hack it. They're just settings that make it even more invisible, without changing how it works.

If you definitely want a filter then the one I've had the most success with is CyberSitter. I have it on our home machine and it doesn't seem to intrude into other non-internet related activities. Also, I've heard great things about BSafe ( ) but haven't tried them yet."
posted at 10:34:50 on December 10, 2007 by derek
"Thanks for the suggestions. This is nothing that I'm pushing on him. He's trying very hard to repent and overcome this addiction and he just wants to make sure he has the best possible chance. He's already had me put a password on his phone and he's the one who gave me his charger. We're just trying to find something so that if it's really late at night and he gets tempted, he won't be able to get anything. I'll discuss these options with him. Thanks a bunch."
posted at 13:53:01 on December 10, 2007 by Matrix
Try NetMop    
"I'm very late on this but I have found much success using NetMop See for a filter- it is designed to protect adults too and there is no way he can uninstall or override it. We use it and it is very effective. I highly recommend it."
posted at 13:04:07 on January 25, 2008 by Anonymous

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"Lucifer will do all in his power to keep you captive. You are familiar with his strategy. He whispers: “No one will ever know.” “Just one more time.” “You can’t change; you have tried before and failed.” “It’s too late; you’ve gone too far.” Don’t let him discourage you. When you take the path that climbs, that harder path of the Savior, there are rewards along the way. When you do something right, when you resist temptation, when you meet a goal, you will feel very good about it. It is a very different kind of feeling than you have when you violate commandments—an altogether different feeling. It brings a measure of peace and comfort and provides encouragement to press on. "

— Richard G. Scott

General Conference May 1990