By They_speak
10/11/2013 8:49:17 PM
I'm looking for some inspiration here so I'm hoping to get some good sincere responses. I've been thinking about my life and the things I'd like to see come of it both as it applies to spiritual things and life in general. I've been pondering on what sacrifices I need to make in order to see those things come about. Will I have to sacrifice friends, music, the unimportant, etc.? I've been thinking about my most recent relapse and it seems the things that got me in trouble, and always do, are giving importance to the unimportant. That's the genius of the deception. I say "well, it's not important if I get on Facebook or listen to music for 5 nothing else to do...". I don't think it's a big deal! Yet, I know i'm not reading all kinds of books I want to be reading or hiking all kinds of mountains I want to be hiking and a number of other good things I could be doing. Helping around the house maybe..? I want to live in a way that vibrates with life. That others can feel and glorify their Father in Heaven. Doing "the unimportant" keeps me from that.

So!, I was wondering if there are any good stories out there about what you've had to sacrifice to lead a life you're proud of? Or what you've had to sacrifice to get closer to that life? Or any moments of truth where you realized in order to move forward you had to give up XYZ? That kind of stuff. I'm sure I could find these stories in the Ensign but I want to hear your stories. Thanks.


Time, comfort    
"Sacrificing both of those by putting myself in the discomfort of going to meetings.and talking to people. This has helped the other things fall into place, I feel. Maybe these have been the works of faith I have needed to overcome. Still not out of the woods, though.

I hope you are doing okay, Speak. Missed seeing you at the convention for SA, which is going great, so far. :-)

posted at 23:07:42 on October 11, 2013 by Anonymous
Sacrifice makes us holy    
"I have mentioned on this site that I sacrificed my music, and that has definitely helped me cleanse my thoughts.

I have also sacrificed my late nights, which were usually spent doing nothing productive or helpful. I now try to get up very early, spending an extra 2 to 4 hours on important, edifying objectives.

I've even sacrificed my favorite job in the world for another one that I enjoy and that I thought God wanted me to focus on. I'm not sure how true that is, but I believe the Lord has blessed me for my willingness to sacrifice.

The word sacrifice has the same root as sacred, sacrament, saint, and sanctify. It means to make holy, and I don't think sacrifice makes the animal on the altar holy. Sacrifice makes us holy.

It is their sacrifice that makes mothers so sacred and special. Soldiers are respected and revered throughout the world for their sacrifice. Ultimately, I believe it is sacrifice that transforms mundane people like me into special, sacred people like mothers and soldiers. My sacrifices throughout life will make me holy. I believe that is one reason God gives us the priesthood. We are to use the priesthood to make sacrifices in our life. We become Godly soldiers, made holy by our selfless service and sacrifice.

And of course, the greatest sacrifice of all is the one made by God the Father and His Son. Their sacrifices are so great, they are called the Holiest of all, and they are Gods. The only way for us to become holy like them is through personal self sacrifice."
posted at 09:51:45 on October 12, 2013 by beclean
I've totally changed in my musical tastes.    
"I was a big classic rock fan ten years ago. Now my favorite music is operatic arias, sacred choral music, classical and baroque concerti and symphonies, and pop opera and Broadway musical pieces. This has changed my life.

I've broken away from the tyranny and instant gratification of the heavy downbeat on 2 and 4 (rock, pop, and most country) and this has freed me. I can (and still do rarely) listen to pop. But I can and usually do say "No" to it and listen to better things. I feel so much better now. I can't tell you how much this can change your nature. I have theories on it, but I won't bore you with the details now. I'll just say that it was no sacrifice, it was just a natural change over a period of years. Maybe I'll blog something with some links to operatic songs, etc. They're actually quite beautiful.

Same with giving up lust (except when I MB), violence, and swearing (for the most part). It just kind of happened. Because I fell in love. But that's another story. The sacrifice is giving up my Sunday hikes into the mountains. I would hike 20 or more miles and be up there 16-18 hours every Saturday and Sunday with my dogs. But now that my dogs have gone to a better place (over the Rainbow Bridge), it doesn't matter that much.

I think that pride is the hardest thing to sacrifice. Sometimes it takes the form of admitting you're wrong, but even trickier is when you're actually right, but you responded the wrong way to the provocation. Bitterness, hatred, and anger are not good things. Total forgiveness is a great thing.

Just my thoughts on the subject."
posted at 14:41:36 on October 12, 2013 by dog
Sacrificing to overcome selfishness    
"I've given up several things as I've dealt with my addiction, primarily as a way to overcome selfishness. The key things I've sacrificed are:

* "Worldly" Music - It's interesting that music has come up a couple of times already. I listen to a lot of music by LDS musicians, but have pretty much given up everything else.

* Killing time on the Internet - I used to enjoy just wasting time surfing the Internet. There were some really interesting stories and articles I'd come across, but so many incidents related to my prn addiction could be traced back to one of these periods of aimlessly wasting time. Not any more though. I just simply don't use my computer unless it's for a very specific purpose, especially at night. It's a sacrifice that has totally been worth it.

* Caffeine - This was just a personal decision... just one more thing I could do to better help me put my spirit in control of my body. I'll totally defend the average LDS person's right to drink Dr. Pepper and still be temple worthy, but for me personally, I've chosen to sacrifice caffeine drinks entirely.

* Pride - I agree with Dog that this can be a tough one. I kept my addiction secret for a lot of years, and let my pride prevent me from confessing to my wife and my bishop for a long, long time. More recently, I was also concerned about the possible embarrassment of being abruptly released from a highly visible calling in the ward, and I used that as an excuse to keep my addiction a secret. I finally decided that my shame and addiction was causing me too much pain, and that it was time to sacrifice my pride and tell my wife and bishop everything, and ask for help with my recovery. That was just over 3 months ago, and it has turned out to be one of the best decisions I've ever made in my entire life.

* Time - I try to spend my time serving others as a form of sacrifice, although I can still do a lot more in this area. I'm usually there for the typical service opportunities (e.g. helping someone move, helping clean the chapel, etc), but I should be doing more."
posted at 23:30:35 on October 12, 2013 by rmww
how serious are you    
"I guess it depends on how serious your to beating this problem. whats most important to you. you can give up things that leads to your addiction or you can keep you addiction. its up to you."
posted at 22:03:10 on October 13, 2013 by Anonymous
I knew you couldn't leave us, Kick it!    
"Ha! So obvious."
posted at 23:01:27 on October 13, 2013 by Anonymous
"Ok, so I've been chewing on this question for a couple days. I've started responses a couple times. I decided I'd share this story, but it didn't start out about sacrifice but I realized that was what I was doing...laying one of my problems on the alter of sacrifice.

I once gave up yelling. I raise my voice to my kids and my husband a lot. I have a loud house with lots of kids and pets and I justify being loud to be able to be heard over the din. But not only that, when I get mad, I yell. It makes it feel like I can MAKE them understand how upset I am so that they will be motivated to change the provoking behavior. Codependent much? Anyway, I decided once that it needed to change cold turkey. I went about 18 month where I raised my voice 3 times. Then I totally fell off the wagon and now I am back to my old self. BUT!!!!.....During that time I learned so much about myself and the way that I treat others. It was miraculous. It changed my family in beautiful ways during that time. One person really can make a difference. It was one of the best periods in our family, and one of the times I was strongest in my recovery. I had so much more confidence and peace. Writing this makes me wonder why I haven't recommitted to doing it again.

Now, my definition of sacrifice is normally "Giving up something good for something better." because giving up something bad (Hey, you can have my used piece of garbage because I don't want it anymore!) doesn't seem like much of a sacrifice. I LOVED Beclean's thoughts on this. I would often use the example of getting up with a baby or child during the night to describe sacrifice. Because sleep is good! (So good) but caring for your child is better. I value their needs above my own. Sacrifice.

That logically always brought me to think about the ultimate sacrifice....the life of our Savior. He sacrificed His life for us. His life was not just good. His life was perfect. So if sacrifice is giving up for something better, then what could be better than His life? Nothing. But to Him, WE are what was better. We were more valuable to Him than Himself.

BUT having said that, the truth is giving up our pet sins is also sacrifice. Sacrifice can be giving up something bad for something better. Like yelling, or giving up t.v. or porn or whatever. I guess it is just a question of something we value. I sure do value yelling. It is a coping tool and a security blanket for me. Yep, it is time to sacrifice.

I think that we need to come to a point that anything that we say to ourselves, "I can't give that up!" or "I don't want to give that up!" then we need to let it go. Yep. Everything. And I hope everyone can have 'ears to hear' what I am saying on that. I am not suggesting that we up and walk out on our jobs or our families, but as the Lord calls us to, then we need to be willing to give it all up. I know it sounds radical but I believe we must come to a point that He owns every part of our soul and there is no habit, possession or person there other than Him. I believe that when we do that, then we will have everything."
posted at 10:17:18 on October 14, 2013 by maddy
Willingness to surrender my will    
"I remember reading something in the LDS ARP book that says maybe we aren't entirely willing at first to give up our addictions, but that willingness will grow. Basically, for me, I gained that willingness because after years of living contrary to the Plan of Happiness, I learned why it was called the Plan of "Happiness". Yep, I reached the bottom of that pit. It was not pleasant. This was the point at which I became willing to surrender my will to God's will.

But, sometimes, I feel tempted to go back to my old ways and I slide back down into that pit a little bit and feel the pain. There has been some relapsing. But God is deeper than any pit I could dig for myself and He helps me find my way out of that pit.

I'm not where I want to be, but at least I'm not where I used to be."
posted at 11:31:30 on October 14, 2013 by Anonymous
I love that quote, Anonymous    
""I'm not where I want to be, but at least I'm not where I used to be." Thanks. Can I use that in Priesthood Meeting next week? : )"
posted at 14:33:48 on October 14, 2013 by dog
Sure thing, Dog. :)    
"...But it's not my quote. It's from Brandon Heath's song, "I'm not who I was". It's a Contemporary Christian song."
posted at 14:37:18 on October 14, 2013 by Anonymous

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